A few years ago we passed a law here in Arizona that allows anyone to turn over a child to a local or state agency, no questions asked, no penalty imposed. The law was primarily meant to save new born babies from the dumpster, or garbage heap, when the mother has decided she doesn't want them.
Despite the law, just two weeks ago a newborn baby, just ten hours old, was found in a crate in the front yard of someone's home over in Mesa, Arizona. Guess handing the child over to a policeman or a fireman would just be too embarrassing. So they dumped the baby on the curb.
Abandoning babies is just the latest refinement of a trend Americans have been practicing since the 60's....desertion...and on a wide scale.
It was the 60's when women were freed from traditional sexual mores by "the pill" and a growing spirit of "free love". Then the 70's came along and The Supremes ruled that it's okay to kill embryos and the desertion game was on.....abortion clinics could now handle the consequences of unprotected sex and 45 seconds of orgasmic pelvic spasms.
After we mastered the art of deserting babies, we learned to desert our military commitment. When the Vietnam War erupted thousands of Americans deserted to Canada, or were protected by the their rich daddies by hanging out at Harvard or Yale or Southern Cal for six years. By the time Vietnam was over those same Americans, scared to death that they might get roped into a future war, scared up enough support to to begin the "all-volunteer" military and deserted the draft. No more of that "citizen soldier" stuff that pop and grandpa participated in. Military service was just so passé for the new generation of Americans. Just hire a small military "mercenary force", pay them a little more than you did with a draft, and let them go out and clean up the world's dirty little messes. And if they come home without arms or legs, or suffering from mental disorders, throw them into a VA system and desert them with bureaucratic ease.
Then, once we really got into "desertion mode" we began deserting grandma and grandpa. For three centuries the American extended family involved having grandma and grandpa live at home, honoring the tradition of "matriarch" and "patriarch"...but that too became too old fashioned...so we shuttled the old folks out to the old folks home, no longer forced to listen to their old fashioned drivel.
Well, once grandpa and grandma were gone, there seemed little need to worry anymore about the "nuclear family". Pretty soon the kids began to feel that they didn't need to listen to Mom and Pop...essentially telling them to just write the checks and shut the fuck up!
And since Mom and Pop began to feel a bit shabbily treated, they began deserting their kids in droves. A whole generation of latch key kids bloomed, PTA meeting halls became "ghost towns" and kids were surrendered to a "it takes a village" teacher's union enthusiastic to give em a good brainwashing and a solid liberal philosophy.
Yep, Americans have become extremely adept at desertion. We've deserted our societal mores, our military duties, our responsibility to vote, even our commitment to protect our young. We've deserted our elders and our kids and any sense of responsibility to our families, community, or country.
Those founding fathers who fought for our Independence were such suckers. And eight or ten generations of "citizen-soldiers" were just saps. America is now peopled by folks too damn smart to fall for all that patriotism crap, or moral crap...they are just too cool for that stuff. And aren't we so much better off for all those desertions!
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When I was single parent raising my children(my ex couldn't handle them by herself) back in the 90's I always had other peoples children staying at the house. Runaways, kicked out, unloved children it was a never ending procession. What I did get out of those years is an unwavering gratitude from those "extra" kids I raised. Glad I did it, wouldn't change a thing. Today, my daughter is raising a family and guess what? Not only is she too raising other people's children, one of the boys is the son of one of the girls I raised. She abandoned him(at 16) for...a drug habit. We've made it too easy for people to shirk responsibility. A half century ago, these people would have been shamed by society. Today, it's an accepted practice. Damn. How did we get here? Sad.
Kudos to you, Frank, for sticking it out when times got tough...for yourself and for those children. Yes, it is sad that so many take the easy way out...who can't make a commitment to anyone or anything.
This is certainly a very tough, depressing subject. You've exposed quite a sad and very open wound in our society. My ex took my kids and moved quite a distance away with another man she married. They learned to know him as dad and me as asshole. Now the older I get the more painful this gets.
Frank, I too salute you for you obviously very large heart! You have most probably saved those kid's lives. Now your daughter carries your torch. Truly amazing. You are a great man.
I've said this before but I'll reiterate, I agree with Ann Coulter's assessment that all our nation's troubles came when we gave women the right to vote!
Three measures of a culture: how it treats its elderly, its young, and its veterans. QED; the solution is left up to the student.
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